Expert Advice: Memorial and Sympathy Gift Questions Answered

Sympathy gift giving can be very confusing and it is hard to know what to say or do when you’ve lost someone close or someone you care about is grieving. This can be a very trying period in people’s lives and gift of sympathy simply delivers the message “Someone is thinking about you” and helps to acknowledge their grief. Showing your support and sympathy does not have to be difficult, give a gift from the heart! Here is our Expert Advice and Answers to the most frequently asked questions for Memorial and Sympathy Gift giving etiquette.

Q1 – Is sending a Sympathy gift appropriate?

Yes! Everyone loves receiving a special personalized gift. During mourning or grief, it can be very comforting to know that people are thinking of you. When the family specifically requests no flowers, a small thoughtful gift can be appropriate. When giving food or food baskets, another very popular gift choice, just keep in mind any dietary restrictions or preferences. Depending on your relationship to the deceased and family, we have the perfect memorial and sympathy gifts for these trying times.

Q2 – What is an appropriate sympathy gift?

From traditional gift like a beautiful flower arrangement to a carefully curated gift basket, sending the right sympathy gift can be difficult. Forgo the flowers that will wilt and die off within a couple of days and send a custom engraved memorial platter that can be displayed at the memorial/funeral service as well as displayed at home for years to come. If you were particularly close to the grieving individual or deceased a personalized keepsake box can be a very meaningful and thoughtful gift, where they can hold important photos and keepsakes together and in a safe place. Whatever the gift item may be, it is really the sentiment and meaning behind the gift that counts the most. Sometimes Gift baskets can be a nice gesture, here is a sweet DIY sympathy basket idea that will brighten anyone’s hard day!

Q3 – Is it appropriate to send a gift instead of flowers?

Yes, although flowers are the more traditional gift or acknowledgement of sympathy, they are usually large and wilt off within a few days and have to be thrown out. A memorial gift is something that can be used and kept for years after the loss to commemorate and remember the life of the individual. It also can be a heartfelt gesture of sympathy letting them know that they are not alone during this hard time.

Q4 – Do I send a gift even if there is no Memorial/Funeral Service? 

Yes, this is the best time to send a gift! Sending a heartfelt gift or thoughtful card can be an uplifting reminder that they are not forgotten. Just because there is no service or memorial, the family will still be grieving. Services and memorials can be very sad, but also a way to honor the life and memory of the deceased. Without a memorial or funeral service, sending a gift of sympathy can offer some support during this hard time as well as help to commemorate their lives and the lives they’ve touched.

Q5 – When is an appropriate time to send condolences or a sympathy gift? 

Send a gift or sympathy card as soon as you find out about the loss. Try to send something within the next few weeks so that the recipient does not feel forgotten. A gift delivered to the home or business after the funeral is a thoughtful and nice gesture. The arrival of a special gift can convey the heartfelt message that, “you are not forgotten”. Grievance continues after the funeral and anytime within the first year it is appropriate to send a gift of sympathy and support. The holidays can be an especially tough and trying for the grieving family or individuals, a personalized memorial Christmas ornament can lift their spirits or an engraved tealight candle will bring it the warmth and spirit of their loved one.

Q6 – To whom or where should the gift be sent?

This really depends on your relationship with the deceased or their family. If you did not know the deceased too well, but are close with their family, address the gift to your friend ‘and family’. When the deceased is a family member, you can address it to the family member that was closest to them. If the deceased was a close friend of yours, you can address the gift to their immediate family like parents, spouse or children.

Q7 – I am close to the grieving individual, but did not know the deceased, is it still appropriate to send a gift?

Yes, you want to show support for your grieving friend or family member. Your thoughtfulness and sympathy will be welcomed even though you did not know the deceased. This can be a difficult time for them and knowing someone is thinking of you can really make a difference in this dark time. Send the gift to the individual you are close with instead of the closest family member of the deceased.

Q8 – I am close to the deceased, but do not know the family. Who should the gift be sent to?

It is appropriate to send the gift to the closest relative of the deceased, for example the widow or eldest child. Sending a thoughtful gift or message can show the family that the deceased meant a lot to other people as well. Make sure to clarify the relationship with the deceased so that the grieving family knows how much they meant to you.

Mourning and grief can be a touchy subject and a hard situation to navigate what is and is not appropriate. Just remember that you want to offer support and condolences during this tough time. To show the grieving individual that they are not alone and that the deceased was loved and will never be forgotten. It might be hard for them to to reach out with thanks, so be patient and supportive. How do you support your friends and family in need? Do you have any special traditions or practices for grief and support?

 

 

 

Expert Advice on Top 6 Wedding Anniversary Gifts Questions!

Choosing the right anniversary gift is tough enough, now the question is how to personalize it properly and appropriately? From names, to dates and special messages it can all get a little confusing! While personalizing a special gift please keep the recipient’s preference in mind, but overall it is personal preference and just what feels and sounds right! Here are our Expert Advice and Answers to our most frequently asked questions for Wedding Anniversary Gift giving and etiquette.

Q1 – Is there specific wedding anniversary gift for each milestone?

Yes! Celebrating an anniversary milestone can be a big deal whether it’s the first anniversary or the 50th there are special traditions and new modern themes! For example, the 25th wedding anniversary is celebrated with Silver, so personalized silver anniversary plate makes the perfect gift.  Another common wedding anniversary gift is the prized golden 50th! Commemorated with the color gold, an engraved anniversary gold clock makes the perfect gift to symbolize the time spent together! You can find a complete list of wedding anniversary milestones and themes here.

Q2 – What are the specific flowers for each wedding anniversary milestone? 

Engraved 25th Wedding Anniversary Tall Jade Glass Vase50th wedding anniversary gift engraved modern glass vase with gold accents

 

Flowers are a classic way of celebrating an anniversary! For every anniversary milestone, there are specific flowers to match and that represent a theme! A great example is the first wedding anniversary is represented by carnations which symbolize lasting vows and joy for the upcoming years. Another great example is the 50th wedding anniversary, represented by yellow roses that symbolize virtue, humility and faith. For a complete list of anniversary flowers and symbolism, check out this helpful blog post. Now, that you have the perfect flowers, we have the perfect vases for any anniversary milestone!

 

Q3 – What date should a wedding anniversary gift be engraved or personalized with?

Both the wedding date and anniversary date are appropriate for an anniversary gift. It is more common to use the current anniversary date, rather than the wedding date. For example, if Joan and Bill Collins are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary and got married on 7/24/1968 the date on the gift should be personalized with 7/24/2018 or July 24, 2018.

Engraving example 1

Q4 – Whose name goes first on the wedding anniversary gift?

The order of names is usually determined by the formality of the gift and just what sounds good! You can personalize with nicknames like Mom and Dad or Nana and PawPaw or you can use more formal surnames and titles. For example, if they like to use their titles, Dr. and Mrs. Bill Collins OR less formal but totally appropriate, Joan and Bill Collins.

engraving example 2

 

Q5 – Should you engrave who the gift is from on a weeding anniversary gift?

Along with the recipient’s names and anniversary date, a lot of our anniversary items have the option to add an additional message. We find it best to keep other names and individuals omitted from the engraving to keep the focus and integrity of the anniversary gift. Adding who the gift is from in the message is a nice sentiment but can also clutter the engraving.  Best is to add it to a gift card message with a special note from you just for them!

Q6 – What is an appropriate message engraved on a wedding anniversary gift?

Remember, the message for engraving is something that will be read and displayed prominently! Forego adding your name or others individuals names, to keep the engraving classic and uncluttered. We find that appropriate messages include, short sweet poem excerpts, treasured religious passages, or even a list of their familial accomplishments make a great message. If all else fails, we have a variety of appropriate example messages on all of our Anniversary items. If you would like the example message to be used, just enter the following into the personalization “Same as example” and we will use the same message shown.

Example of personalization messages:

An anniversary is a time
to celebrate the joys of today,
the memories of yesterday,
and the hopes of tomorrow.

Love is patient, love is kind,
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.

Here at Memorable Gifts, we have been in the gift-giving business for over 20 years and pride ourselves on our industry expertise! We carefully curate amazing gifts for all occasions and celebrations with original and unique designs. With thousands of satisfied customers over the years, we have learned the ins and outs of personalized gifts! How do you like to celebrate anniversaries? Do you have any special family traditions or gifts? Have you ever received a personalized wedding anniversary gift? We would love to hear how you celebrate this special occasion!

New Gift Ideas for this Mother’s Day

Mother’s day is coming and every mother deserves some recognition and love! Mothers are the glue of the family and are always there to pick you up when you fall and pat you on the back when you succeed. From Moms to grandmothers to step moms, they play an important role in all of their children’s lives! Mother’s Day, is a day that should stand out and a general day of thanks and recognition. This year, we have curated brand new gift ideas and designs for this special day.

Lenox Oval Platter for Mom 

From the American Classic China Company, Lenox, these white porcelain trays are sure to dazzle.  Classic and refined, this tray is sure to match any home décor. Engraved with their family title and heartfelt message, this tray makes the perfect addition to any mantle or entryway. The delicate vine detailing on the rim of the tray, truly makes this a truly one of a kind piece.

Best Mom Ever Wood Plaque

A unique and fun way to celebrate mom and everything she does is with this Best Mom Ever Natural Birch Wood Plaque. This angle cut piece of natural wood is free standing and will fit on any shelf or mantle. This gift makes the perfect match for the rustic style or farmhouse décor and will be displayed with pride! Personalize the bottom message to make this a really special gift.

Tealight Candle Holder

Mothers are truly a blessing to our lives and created a safe home base for us. Show her your gratitude for being such a blessing with this Personalized Tea Light Candle Holder. Adorned with the saying “Home is where Mom is” could not be a truer statement. The black mirror finish is sure to compliment any home or office décor.

M-O-T-H-E-R Shadow Box

Mother’s deserve the world in return for everything they do, but don’t always get that recognition. Show your mom everything that she is, loving, strong and beautiful among other things, with this special Mother’s Acronym Framed Shadow Box. Reminiscent of elementary school art and mother’s day projects, this heartfelt acronym is sure to be a tearjerker. This shadow box will be hung with pride on any mantle or shelf in her home for years to come!

Keepsake Treasure Box

Mothers always keep small trinkets and treasures from their kid’s childhood. Whether its macaroni bracelet from the first grade or a graduation photo, they are memories they cherish forever. Help them keep those memories safe with this personalized Keepsake Photo Box. The photo frame on the top of the box makes the perfect display for her favorite photo or even her favorite childhood artwork. Adorned with the word “Mother” and the sweet saying “You have filled my life with a beautiful love” this box is a gift she will never forget!

Personalized Bible Cover for Mom  

Mothers are truly a blessing and deserve to be recognized. Honor the faith she instilled into you with this special personalized bible cover. Help her worship in an organized way with this sturdy bible cover. Adorned with a dove wielding an olive branch, the ultimate symbol of peace and faith, this cover is sure to be treasured. Personalize with her name or a special passage to truly make this a gift to be used daily.

From fancy spa packages to handmade macaroni art, there are so many great gifts that the special mom in your life will love. This year, get her something to cherish for rest of her life; something that she can display with pride and affection and remind her of the love of family!  Our new gift ideas will bring any mom to tears of joy and pride and will be cherished for years to come. We are sure to have a Mother’s Day gift for all the important mothers in your life! How do you celebrate Mother’s Day in your family? Do you have any special traditions?